Last year I moved to other states. I sent him e-mail and called him sometimes. He replied my e-mails, but he never sent e-mail to me or call me. He wrote over 20 poems about how much he love, miss, and want to be with me. The poems are very specific and only talk about us. He posted it online to show that he still likes me.
Recently, he wrote some sad poems (possibly moving on poems). I asked him about the poems, but he did not tell me. I was upset and heart broken, therefore, I deleted him from my friendlist. Because I wanted him to move on. He probably mad so he blocked me from his website.
Does he hate me? What do you think?
Thank youWill he hate me? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
He doesn't hate you, he loves you..like you said he wrote you love poems..but he feels he isnt getting anywhere so he started written sad poems because this is how his heart is..if you dont wanna be with him then thats the best thing to do but if you wanna be friends and maybe further more than friends down the road you must be honest with him and with your heart so you dont hurt his heart anymoreWill he hate me? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Awe...this is so sweet. No he doesnt hate u, he's just hurt that after revealing how he felt for u, u deleted him. He was prob skeptical in the first place and then after u did that, he crashed and burned inside. If u want him now (for some reason) then u must have the ultimate comeback. Go all out to show him that u 1st appreciate his efforts, then show him that feelings are mutual... BY sending him a dozen roses at work and an invitation to have a getaway for the weekend together. His heart will melt all over again but u have to be humble...he seems like a good guy. Dont ruin it...lay down ur pride so u can get back in girl...get to work. Good Luck
maybe he just knows that he needs to stop talking to you so that he can get over you and move on. just leave him alone for now.. maybe one day you will be able to be friends
I don't think he hates you because if he did he would never responded to any of your emails, But I do think since you moved he either found someone else or he just don't think the relationship will work because it's long distance. One or the other
He doesn't hate you. He is hurt..
If you didn't explain yourself to him and just expected him to know there is now way he could really accept it as it is.
Some men are just like us when they fall they fall hard. An explanation would only help him to move on. Just removing him isn't doing anything but confusing him.
Love is never simple.
It is really up to you if you want to still remain friends. But remember friends don't remove love or the pain of know there is someone else for the one you love.
We all say whatever make you happy. But honestly we want to be the one to make you happy and love doesn't ever just go away. Its not the way it works.
Explain what you are trying to do for him. Then leave it alone if you feel it is necessary.
it sounds like u wanted a relationship out of convenience! I'd give up on u to and move on. he's doesn't hate u afterall he did respond back to u but he went from being happy to sad or disappointed! obviously it wasn't meant to b so, I'd let him go and move on afterall it only took u over 3 yrs. to give the poor guy some attention! u can't have ur cake and eat it to!
I don't think he hates you. You can't go from loving a person one day and hate them for deleteing you the next day.
Just doesn't add up.
But what i do think is that if you still have is number, call him, and if he answers tell him the COMPLETE TRUTH on how you feel about him, and then listen to what he has to say and respond to it. If he don't answer then leave him a quick message telling him that you have something really important to tel him, or say something along that line. He should call you back.
Good Luck!
I hope everything works out.
I think that you unintentionally strung him along and he finally got tired of waiting. Sorry sweetie, but he probably is heartbroken for now. Leave him be.
He might resent you, not hate you. Love is a very sensitive subject. And it sounds like this man really loves you. Its hard for men to show that kind of emotion. So after all that rejection... how could he possible take anymore?
no he doesn't hate you but is merely suffering from hurtful feelings. his heart is broken. but he will move on as life itself moves on
Yes, he hates you! I would block you too!
I think that you are doing the right thing. The best part of a relationship is trust and you told him how you really fell. Therefore making him feel that he can trust you even if Y'all don't go together. I don't think he hates you. I think that some part of him couldv'e have loved you and when you told him you wasn't ready he was probably heart broken and distraught. i think the best thing for you to do right now my friend is give him space and time. HE WILL COME. Don't be sad too long because if he sees you sad then it's going to make him sad and he will only be like that from now on. Just take my advice.G0D BL3$$ and G00d !uck!!!!!!!!!!!
no he likes you but youre far away so why worryZ? dont write back..
he probably doesn't hate you... but he's probably really hurt inside. its tough loving someone so much... and not being able to get that back in return... thats one of the toughest things. You can absolutely love someone with everything that you have... and give them your all, but the one thing you can't do is make them love you in return. 3 years is a long time, i'm sure he loved u very much to hold on that long.... and after loving someone for so long... its not just going to go away. i'm sure you are still in his heart... but he is probably telling himself that this is getting him no where in life, and that he just needs to get moving on.... but i can guarrantee u that he does not hate u, and he probably still loves you, he just is trying not to show it, b/c hes hurting...
He does not hate you. He is trying to move on from you. Judging from the way he changed his poems, towards sadness, I think he came to the realisation that you two will never be. Three years is a long time to wait you know, especially when you are the only one ';waiting';. Right? He was the only one waiting....because you were not moved by him in that way.
This is story for a book. I feel sorry for him. It seems he really believed he had some hope but really , poor guy never stood a chance.
If you are in Love with him, go find him and see for yourself (IF you are ready).
If you do not want him, leave him alone. He will forgive you, he does NOT hate you. he just had his wings clipped a little. But don't worry, they will grow back.
This is better for you. Its sad, but you should be glad.
I will be watching this question. let us know what you decide.
I dont think that he hates you.. but men too have feelings and woman don't always think they do, often times they expect the man to run after the woman, but after running so long is there a point where he should give up and realize that it just isn't going to happen? When you moved he most likely already felt like he couldn;t have you. He is not mad his feelings are just hurt. if you were to go back to his neighborhood, his feelings would probably all come back. When someone you like or love is away it is very easy to hide your true feelings.
Right now, your friend must want to be alone for awhile, he doesn't hate you, it's just that he needs some time for himself to clear his mind of certain issues which may involve you as well. I think you shouldn't have deleted him from your friendlist cause it'll only make him feel more isolated and dejected, afterall, he's writing sad poems which can be reflective of his present state of mind. Try understanding his problems and how you can help him get back into his usual self. Give him a call and ask whether you two can meet, so that you can try to relate to his problems and perhaps get to know him better as well.
Don't think too much as to whether he hates you or not. He's a friend of yours, so try to 'patch' things up between you two. It's best that you take the initiative this time in sorting things out, because if he's really writing poems on moving on, it might turn out the wrong way. So try to get back together with him as friends and even though you're still not prepared for a relationship, why not just give a thought about it?
He probably thinks you will never come back to him. It's better to move on cuz a long distance relationship isn't good. I guess the lust faded with time and he is moving on cuz he can't wait anymore. Good luck!
No, He just realized that (like you said) he needed to move on. . .and I think you do to.
If you have contact with him again. . .establish that what you two have is strictly platonic. . (friends only) and leave it at that.
If you have to do all the ';work'; in a relationship, than my suggestion is, let him go.... There will always be that special someone out there, for whom loving you is not a task, but just comes natural. Don't go searching for it, it will find you ;)
Sounds like to me, he was ready to move on, and so were you. Being away from each other, for a set amount of time, erases memories, even the smallest ones, and as a result, the sparks were not flying anymore. The best thing for the both of you to do is to remember the times you had spent together, and to learn from the mistakes, and just move on.
This guy really likes you. If you moved away and he is still writing poems and keeping in touch with you, then he must care for you a lot. Maybe when you asked him about the most recent poems he got embarrassed because they had so much emotion in them. I think he cares about you a great deal and it was very mean that you deleted him from your buddy list. Add him back and tell him it was a mistake. You are lucky to have someone that cares about you so much. He will not hate you, but I'm sure you did hurt his feelings.
Confusing....
Don't try to fix this. It will work out fine, but if you try to repair it, it will only injure his pride and make it worse. He doesn't hate you, but this is a major wound to his pride.
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